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How to cheer yourself up

Published 6 months ago • 2 min read

Hi Reader,

Do you ever wish there were a "bad day" vaccine?

Alas, no one is immune to bad days. (Yes, that includes those of us who study joy for a living.)

In the past, when I found myself in the midst of one of those no-good-very-bad days, I would throw my hands up in despair.

But when I learned about how even small moments of joy can shift our moods, I realized that no day is ever a lost cause. Joy is possible even on the worst days. It may only be a flicker, but it can change everything.

In this week's post, I'm sharing twelve science-backed tips for how to cheer up on a hard day. Every single tip in this post is supported by research, and most take no more than a few minutes.

Read the post here

And for a little something fun, we created a "Joy Break Generator" inspired by the tips in the post. When you need a lift, choose one thing from each column to design your own joyful time out.

And read on for joyful hair clips, a reframe that has made my life a lot easier, and a whole bunch of delightful discoveries!

Joyfully,

Ingrid

One Thing

Stop trying to impress people

My life got 1000% easier (and more fun) when I stopped worrying about how to impress people and started thinking about how to delight them.

The thing about trying to impress is that it feels like you’re thinking a lot about the other person — but really, you’re focused on yourself. What will make them think I’m smart? What will show them I have good taste? What will make them believe I’m worthy? (None of which you actually have any control over, btw.)

But when delight is your goal, none of that matters. You’re not looking for approval. You’re just looking for joy.

In Search of: Whimsical Ways to Keep My Hair Out of My Face

1 / Jenny Lemons / 2 / Golden Hour Gift Co / 3 / Coucou Suzette / 4 / The Peach Fuzz Co / 5 / Chunks Shop / 6 / Teleties

One of the least adult things about me has got to be my hair tie situation: a covered elastic that I wear around my wrist like a thirteen year-old girl. But last week I found myself twisting up my hair with an alligator clip left behind by my stylist after a post-pandemic house call.

It felt good! A little more put together! And it made me wonder if there might be someone out there who has created a line of joyful hair clips. Turns out, there are more than a few to choose from. I wouldn't be mad to find a few of these in my stocking on Christmas morning.

Delightful Discoveries

Quote of the Week

"Does the sun ask itself, "Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?" No, it burns and it shines. Does the sun ask itself, "What does the moon think of me? How does Mars feel about me today?" No it burns, it shines. Does the sun ask itself, "Am I as big as other suns in other galaxies?" No, it burns, it shines."

—Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood

The Joyletter

by Ingrid Fetell Lee

Designer, bestselling author, and founder of the School of Joy. I help people find more joy in life and work through design. Join more than 45,000 readers who receive our weekly treasure trove of science-backed tips, delightful discoveries, and inspiration for living a better life.

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